How to Help Yourself in Your Teen’s Rehabilitation

Change is neutral.

Although the results of that change can be good or bad, beneficial or injurious, change is intrinsically neither of those.

However, when change occurs from forces beyond our control then the results are frequently perceived as being bad. That is how your child may feel when he or she goes to a rehab for teens (although a reputable and effective treatment center will bring about a quick and effective improvement, and your teen will soon appreciate that).

You may also feel bad when your child goes away to a treatment center. You may feel that you have failed in some way. Rest assured that you have not. You are a person and so is your teen. The actions of others are always outside of your control. You have done the best you could and your teen–perhaps for medical or psychological reasons–did not respond. You simply need a helping hand.

To help yourself more, follow these tips:

  • Be detailed when discussing your teen’s placement in the Elk River Treatment Program or treatment center in your location. Discuss allergies, known medical issues and medicines that have been prescribed or taken.
  • Learn the names of the staff that will be looking after your child. When you call, the person answering the phone will certainly provide good but generic information. You want specific information from the specific staff.
  • Many people want to speak to the manager or owner of an institution when there is a problem or concern. That is an ineffective approach. You ought to speak to the nurse or social worker, and not necessarily to the doctor or head psychiatrist, in order to get the most relevant and helpful information.

Most importantly, contact us at the Elk River Treatment Program to be reassured that your teen is undergoing the good changes that a rehab for teens is intended to produce.


Stop! You Don’t Have to Do Crime!

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I spent years trying to understand why I did crime, why I began so young and what I needed to do to stop! Even after learning the answer, I spent additional years learning how to stop doing crime. Impatient greed motivates crime! No! environment challenges, such as poverty, diminished opportunities, etc. neither cause nor motivate crime. You do not inherit criminal thinking from your parents or other relatives. You see, crime is a way of thinking that makes it okay to harm others for self-gain. You do not do crime because others do. You do not do crime because you grow up in impoverished circumstances. Those are all lies, designed to accomplish the third of the three-prong prime directive of crime.

In other words, crime is a personal, individual decision that develops from impatient greed. Therefore, you do not have to do crime. In other words, you do crime because you want what you want and you want it now, no matter who you must harm to get it. Therefore, just as you decided to do crime, you can decide to stop! Impatient greed often leads to violence because this mindset of getting what I want when i want it, no matter who I must hurt to get it, includes violence. When you do crime, you always try to go in with an advantage over your victim, just like any other predator. All criminals desire to get over on people, to get away with it, and if caught to avoid the consequences, if possible, so the person can return to doing crime.

Take a lion, for example. Lions hunt with great steath. They track a herd of African antelopes, for example, until they’re able to isolate one from the herd, cut it off and kill it. In the same way, criminals isolate victims, cutting them off from whatever could protect them from the crime. Many people, particularly the families and loved ones of criminals do not like it when I refer to criminals as people predators, but I don’t know of a better term to succinctly describe the thinking, the attitude and the behavior called crime. Okay, now you know why criminals do crime, and I don’t care how you label it, street crime, white collar crime, whatever, the definition holds up. Crime is a way of thinking that makes it okay to harm others to get what you want when you want it.

Next comes the performance principle, summarized in Luke 16:1-13 in the parable of the unjust steward. They key phrase says: “Anyone who is faithful in little will also be faithful in much. Being faithful in little means learning something that the Apostle Paul summarizes in his epistle to the Phillipians. He wrote: “I have learned that in whatever state I find myself, therewith to be content.” Being content with little is synonymous to being faithful in little. This attitude of mental contentment continues to abide with you even as God increases your blessings to what can only be defined as much.

This new thinking process begins with the priority principle stated in Matthew 6:33 that says: “Seek first God’s kingdom and His righteousness and God will provide the basics–food, shelter and clothing. I do not have the time or the space here to elaborate on how this principle has been fulfilled in my life during the past 40 years, but rest assured that I know and know that I know the truth of this principle.


When is a Crime Not a Crime?

If you buy something advertised to do specific things and then find out that it is completely different to your expectations that would not necessarily be a crime. But if the advertisement targets a specific need, such as a cure for something, but it did not cure it that would that be a crime. It is misrepresentation and many suffer the consequences of such frauds every day. For example if crimes against individuals or countries during war are not attributable to the sitting Head of State and if he or she is not aware of the crime there is a case for exemption.

Thieving is an easily recognizable crime. But what if something was stolen a long time ago? Is it still a crime? Yes, and the perpetrators face penalties if caught. The same applies to murder, rape, or any other crime against society. Those associated with crime or who assist criminals in any way may be equally as guilty unless they know nothing of it. Protecting criminals is aiding and abetting. Earning money from crime, whether it was committed by them or not, and covering up the deed while denying knowledge of it is likewise a crime.

There are few if any exceptions to these laws.

This has been brought to the fore during the Iraq war whereby torture and such performed by military personnel saw soldiers jailed or punished but the President of the United State and his Secretary for Defense are innocent or outside of the legal process. War crimes, however, could once go unpunished because of circumstances. Some heads of State could be exempt under certain conditions. Under those circumstances no crime has an expiry date when it continues to affect people. So a crime, once identified as such, is always a crime.

South Africa.info carries a report on this type of behavior under the heading Social Development, sub headed Tackling the social causes of crime. They note that social crimes are difficult to investigate because “the relationships between the victims and the perpetrators, where levels of intimidation and family pressure are very high,” Safety and Security Minister Charles Nqakula told journalists in Pretoria recently. Crime has an extensive reach, however, and even history cannot erase such acts from their consequences. Whilst the criminals may die their established businesses may be run by their heirs.


Crime and Delinquency

Then later in the day we might as well turn on the television and see the official footage where the police apprehend a serial killer who has murdered 15 people up to that point in different areas across the country. And finally in the evening we find some time to relax and watch a movie with a criminal content, which give a vivid thrilling story of an enraged sadistic murderer who kills innocent people left and right in order to accomplish his sinister and mysterious scheme. This is a typical day that a person spends in today’s world and it cannot but influence his or her social attitudes and perceptions. Living in a society like this, people get desensitized and when a new brutal murder is reported on television or in the tabloids not many people pay attention. Violence and aggression expressed in the movies do their job and the real-life situations do not startle people any more.

The essential component of juvenile crime is said to be a group or a gang activity (A. Bandura, 1973, pp 263). Children most of whom have run away from homes live on the street and consequently form and gang. According to the formal definition , any action that is legally prohibited by the law can constitute a crime. At present, crime has become an integral part of our lives in the sense that we are all so much used to it simply because we hear or face crime every other day. In a society that we live in today the mass media has so much influence and sway that it is not a big deal when we wake up in the morning get a hold of a newspaper and read about some brutal murder the story of which is intentionally put in the paper for the sole reason of getting the reader’s attention.

The activity of such a group usually involves acts of vandalism and petty shop-lifting, and theft. They also engage in acts of violence when two or more gangs compete for the right to exist in a particular city district. That oftentimes involves use of lethal weapons such as knives, sticks, or sometimes even guns. When there is a collision between two gangs there is a very high possibility of violence and sadism. Children brutally fight with one another as though those were two armies that went to war. The objective of such gang activity is material gain. The social gang is a relatively permanent group of youths who generally exist in accord with society. Besides the shoplifting and vandalism gangs also engage in drugs distribution. Gangs may attack a person on the street with a purpose of steeling his or her money (Encyclopedia Britannica 2001).

There was a social debate that caused a great deal of controversy concerning the age that children can be actually held accountable for their personal actions. According to Anglo-American law, the definition of crime implies any action that is prohibited by the law with a criminal intent. The proponents of the theory that children cannot be responsible for the offenses that they commit maintained that children under the age of 14 cannot theoretically have a criminal intent due to a variety of factors. This infancy defense that was argued to be very theoretically consistent was eventually disregarded by most juvenile courts as people realized more and more that acts of delinquency can be committed by children of virtually any age. All crimes are committed with a criminal intent otherwise it is not a crime.

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The activities that are deemed to have been underreported include mostly street crime such as gangs, shoplifting, marijuana smoking, drugs and also acts of vandalism. Therefore, it is believed that the actual crime level is virtually higher than it was in the 1980s. However, there is one field in criminology that always draws my utmost attention and that is delinquency and crimes committed by children and adolescents. One simply cannot ignore such a disturbing phenomenon simply because crimes committed by children range from petty theft and shop-lifting to brutal clearly planned murders that make people stop and think about the world and about its future. It also makes me wonder  Couples Sex Toy where this world is going given the fact that we have twelve year old murderers whose transgressions surpass the crimes committed by their older counterparts in terms of brutality and sophistication.


Things a plumber san diego has to check

Too many times, people wait far too long to see a doctor. They wait until they are in extreme pain or almost cannot get up from the bed. This makes it extremely hard, time-consuming and expensive to cure the patient.

Similarly, people often wait too long to contact a plumber. Oftentimes, they wait until there is a stench coming from the septic tank. This can be dangerous as the gas emitted often contains the poisonous gas of methane, and is often the result of the following:

Surface runoff of rainwater- During downpours, the rain often gets to the tank which then becomes flooded. To prevent this from happening, get an intercept drain to redirect the rainwater.

Faulty tank vent- Sometimes the vent becomes faulty not because it is faulty but because the house gets renovated. It is often easy to overlook the septic tank and it may get blocked or covered up. In most cases, this is not something that you can correct but which requires a professional.

Septic tank is full- This is perhaps the most common source of the problem, and it can be solved easily by ensuring that there is regular pumping of the septic tank.

You ought not to diagnose yourself through “Dr. Google”. Similarly, you should not diagnose plumbing problems on your own. You ought to see a doctor for regularly scheduled checkups, and to have a plumber come to your home and perform some preventative maintenance.

Contact a plumbing professional, such as Plumbing Plus, a plumber san diego.